"3 Sides"

There was a line in Top Gun, where he talks about breaking a major rule of engagement.  "You NEVER leave your wing-man."  That is just one of those rules you don't break.  Well, I have this standing rule that I typically refuse to break.  However, today I did.  Dang it!!  I hate when I do that. It's simple, there are 3 sides to every story... your side, their side, and the TRUTH.  Typically when I'm giving someone advice or listening to their story, I never react or give advice based on one side of the story.  There is always another side and typically that side is just as jaded as the other.  See the problem is... people perceive things differently!  Lets put it this way... perception is reality... UNTIL INTERRUPTED BY FACT!  The fact part is typically the truth that is rarely experienced because people are to busy giving others advice based on one side of the story.  I am typically soooo good at waiting to hear or being aware of, the different sides of a story, but I really blew it today.  I'm such a freaking rookie sometimes.  There is nothing more powerful then to sit two people down and hear each side of the story and then help THEM see the TRUTH in what is really going on.  I think the enemy really uses relationships to divide people. I know he uses people who mean well but only take sides when they should serious consider all sides. It's our responsibility to help people discover the TRUTH of what really happened and what needs to change.  Anyway, I blew it today, but it was a good reminder that I must continue to stay neutral and advise people based on the truth not someone's perception of that truth.  Ugh... does that make sense?